So I have been reading this book called “ The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F” by Mark Mason. first I bought the book thinking “Who the hell makes a book with this title?! I’m getting it.” Then as I started reading, there was a sudden light bulb that came on in my head! Literally in the first 9 pages he says:
“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience “
My mind was literally blown! Basically, he said wanting a positive experience is a negative experience; accepting a negative experience is a positive experience. But HOW SWAY? How does this work?
So I sat the book down for a minute and looked around my room. I noticed all of the positive affirmations I had on sticky notes on my mirror, the things that I repeat to myself daily and asked myself does ALL of this really help? And to be honest, I really didn’t know.
Then I finally realized that it is not about being overly positive, or being pessimistic about what we can and will accomplish if we put our minds to it. The answer was simply that accepting what is becomes the first step toward acquiring a positive attitude. If we understand that bad things will happen and we face them head on then the only outcome is a positive. Does this mean stop our practices of positive thoughts… absolutely not. It just means don’t pretend the problem is not there, but embrace it and make the best of it.