Photo by Russell Ferrer on Unsplash I remember being younger and watching shows like The Real World, Big Brother and American Idol. These shows had real people with real issues and real talent. They weren't full of drama but were fun to watch, kept me entertained and didn't drain me from all the toxicity being… Continue reading Reality TV: How Far Is Too Far?
Dating as a millennial has always been a difficult task. You try to maintain yourself without giving too much or little to someone else. Dating when done correctly is a beautiful thing. My problem is the initial execution that starts the dating phase—the DM or private message. The act of messaging someone you like is… Continue reading Why Your Shot Didn’t Go In-Want vs. Value
When thinking about immigration, it’s easy to focus on the plight of undocumented and dacamented people, as if they were the only ones affected by America’s immigration policy and climate of hate towards immigrants. I am guilty of viewing the citizen children of immigrants as lucky and carefree Americans. That started to change the day… Continue reading Paz Ellis on the plight of Citizen Children of Immigrants
One of the most memorable moments that I experienced during the trip to my homeland, Brazil earlier this year, was unexpectedly stumbling upon a ceremony known as Festival of Lemanja. It was at a locals’ beach adjacent to Pão de Açúcar (Sugarloaf Mountain) that I saw a large group of mostly Afro-Brazilians gathered under a… Continue reading Candomblé (Part I)
Using phrases like “that’s not in my reality”Saying I love you to myself over 5X each day Waking up excited about my dayApologizing less for just being me Treating myself to more kindnessAccepting more complements with out giving one immediately back Taking time to smile at myselfTaking more selfiesReally putting myself out there and sharing… Continue reading Journey Check In
I’m an educated bisexual African American millennial. However of all the titles I just used, you only question one—my sexuality. Some part of you needs validation for why I require both sexes for sexual satisfaction. Your mind wonders if I’m just sexually promiscuous, or if someone took advantage of me at an early age. You… Continue reading My Sexuality isn’t a Phase
Growing up that was a term that I heard very often from my mother and my elders. To stay in a child's place or in other words stay out of grown folks' face, no back talk, and do what they say without question. Now that is all fine and dandy and in certain situations I… Continue reading What is a Child’s Place?
Sitting in the house these past few weeks has really shed some light on ME! I did not realize how many things that I could be doing in this time to take care of myself and also get some work done. So I thought I would share a bit of my list with you all. … Continue reading Quarantine and ME !
Whenever I find out that someone I know or follow on social media is expecting a child, I am happy for them, but a part of me is bitter. I have always longed for the day I become a mother. I was supposed to graduate from college, find a good job, marry a "college sweetheart",… Continue reading RTR: When Will It Be My Turn?
Chileeeeee. I was on FaceTime with one of my good girlfriends having a Rona happy hour, and we got to talking about what separates the boys from the men. She a whollllllle therapist honey, so she starting talking about emotional openness and communication skills like the educated woman that she is. BUT ME? I haddd… Continue reading Why it benefits MEN to give WOMEN head