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Have you ever told yourself that when you become a parent you aren’t going to do this, that and the third? I’m more than guilty of it. I didn’t have this huge list of things I wasn’t going to do, but I did have a pretty good Idea of what I’d be like as a parent;

• Calm
• Understanding
• Patient
• Fun
• Easy Going

Just to name a few. For the most part I am very calm, it takes a lot of repeating myself over and over again before I turn into the exorcist.

We have this idea that our kids will be perfect angels at all times, but honestly, were we even that nice to our parents? I like to think I was a good kid, with just a slight attitude, but I’m sure I didn’t have one at the age of 7. That’s a story for another time though!

Anyways, I didn’t feel like motherhood would be as hard as it is and that our parents were just mean. I void to never be the parent that yelled, had to give whoopings and more, but they say, “never say never.”

Here are a few things I said I would never do as a parent, but caught myself doing just that.

1. Lose Temper
2. Spankings
3. Allowing Too Much Screen Time
4. Treating To Too Many Sweets
5. Using the ‘Because I Said So’ Card
6. Not Taking Feelings Into Consideration
7. Comparing Our Kids To Others
8. Assuming They Are Being Dishonest
9. Being Dismissive

I do my best to teach my own child right from wrong, how to think about his actions and how they may make other people feel, but I also have to remind myself that these are actions he needs to see from me. So, when I find myself doing the things I listed above, I have to take a step back.

I hate that as a mother I can be dismissive without even realizing it. I’ve made it a priority to explain myself to my son when I’m acting out of sorts. Many people will use the, “you don’t need to explain yourself to a child,” but honestly we do. Just because they are children it doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings. They have a ton and haven’t fully learned how to deal with them, so it’s best we help them with that, even if we feel we shouldn’t have to.