My Life Be Like, sexperts

InterSEXtional Thinking: Accessing Your Sexual Agency

In January 2021, the soulful goddess Jazmine Sullivan dropped an EP that sent the sexologist in me on a spiral! I loved her collection, Heaux Tales, from the title to the finish. The interludes, the passion, yes. Although she did her thing, this article isn’t an ode to the greatness that is Jazmine Sullivan. Instead,… Continue reading InterSEXtional Thinking: Accessing Your Sexual Agency

My Life Be Like, poetry

For Ash

On your darkest daysand on the dayswhere you are not toofond of yourselfjust remember.You are not alone.  On the dayswhere youbeat yourself upfor loving someonewho treated you like shit. The times that you contemplategoing back to them.Just for a second.Just for a penisjust for a hug just to avoid being lonely.You are not alone.  I let… Continue reading For Ash

My Life Be Like

Off Birth Control & I’m (Slowly) Back

Photo by Gabby K on Pexels.com I started taking birth control when I was about 17 and continued to take it until I was about 23. Needless to say the minute I got off of it I ended with a child; He's six now! Three years ago I got on it again after slipping up… Continue reading Off Birth Control & I’m (Slowly) Back

My Life Be Like

My Cinderella Story

Do you remember as a child, playing pretend? Do you remember who you pretended to be, and why? I remembered the other day when I was deep cleaning our apartment, the days I pretended to be a Disney princess. After leaving school, I would go with my mom back to the house she was cleaning… Continue reading My Cinderella Story

My Life Be Like, sexperts

Foreplay IS Sex

Why do we only call something sex once there has been an insertion of a penis into a vagina? We know and understand how this removes non-heterosexuality from a discussion; however, I never thought how limiting "sex" to penetration was damaging to heterosexual women or why.  As always, these are my personal opinions and have… Continue reading Foreplay IS Sex

My Life Be Like, sexperts

Genital Reveal > Gender Reveal

Throughout the 1990s and 2000s, I watched my mama lug cases of pampers to her pregnant friends' baby showers, and as the mid-2010s rolled around, teenage pregnancy in the Black community led me to attend a few baby showers of my own. I found pleasure in our remixed versions of the word scramble games, clothespin… Continue reading Genital Reveal > Gender Reveal

My Life Be Like, short story

Doing It Well Finale

We pulled up at Drago’s and part of me was still excited from what had just happened. As I went to open the door, Quan grabbed my hand... “I know I promised dinner, but could we get this to go,” he said. “Yeah, if that’s what you’re comfortable with,” I said happily.  “Cool, I’ll get… Continue reading Doing It Well Finale

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Running Back To An Ex… Don’t Do It!

Photo by Avonne Stalling on Pexels.com On several occasions I've found myself running back to what's and/or who is familiar to me and it most cases the outcome has always been the same. I'm sitting there regretting making a U-Turn to go back to the place I've left for a specific reason, wishing I would… Continue reading Running Back To An Ex… Don’t Do It!

My Life Be Like, poetry

Talk That Talk

So he just left,like 15 mins ago.He has work blah blah blah… He comes in,uses thebathroom.Then walks to my room. From his coatto my lips.We get lifted.I needed not tofeel. He consumes me.Stop. Stop,stop. Kissing my neckwith a fist full of hair.My titties in the air. Two handfulsof me.On his lap, giantlegs wide open. The… Continue reading Talk That Talk