In 2009, I met someone in high school that I quickly connected with. She was funny, open minded, studious and very supportive. For the first time I felt like I could be myself and didn’t have to act a certain way in order to be accepted. She was extremely kind, fun to be around and laid back, just like me! I thought we’d be friends forever.
Everything was great between us until I went away to college. My school was only about 40 min away from home, but between school, work and my sorority, I wasn’t always available to hang out or talk on the phone. My best friend hated that we seemed to be growing apart. Simultaneously we were transitioning from teenagers to women, so of course our interests and personalities changed. The things we once had in common and enjoyed were no longer the same. We argued damn near every time we spoke and I had no idea how to fix this newfound disconnect.
Throughout my four years in college we had a pretty toxic relationship. We would argue about something petty, go months without talking, and would eventually make up. It was a never ending cycle. It wasn’t until I came back from college that our relationship went from bad to worse. Since I was back living 10 min away from her, she expected us to hang out and chill damn near every single day like we did in high school. 23 year old me had no interest in doing that. Whenever we did hang out it was awkward, because we literally had nothing in common anymore. The things she wanted to do just didn’t appeal to me and vice versa. Everything felt forced and she continued to voice her frustration that we didn’t hang out enough. Her clinginess began to annoy me more and more, but we had been friends for too long… I couldn’t let that go.
After multiple failed attempts to fully reconnect, me and my best friend decided to part ways. I thought I would miss her, but I mostly felt like a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. The character Dominique Brown was created to illustrate that some people aren’t meant to be in your life forever and that’s okay.