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Ayesha Curry is wildly popular these days. Besides her being the wife of Golden State Warriors point guard and NBA star Stephen Curry, she also has her own cooking show on the Food Network and she also is a cookbook author.  Outside of Steph, she is definitely making a name for herself and doing good things. Recently though, she admitted that despite the perfect exterior of her being happy with Steph that all is not perfect when it comes to the way she perceives herself. She recently made this statement when appearing on Jada Pinkett-Smith’s Red Table Talk:

“It bothers me and it has honestly given me a sense of a little bit of an insecurity is the fact that there are all these women throwing themselves at Steph. But me, like the past ten years, I don’t have any of that. I have zero, I know it sounds weird, but zero male attention. So then, I begin to internalize it and wonder is something wrong with me.”

At that point, the other ladies in the Curry crew along with Pinkett-Smith began to try to clean up what was said, but the damage was already done according to social media. At that point, men and women began to throw their opinions out there about the whole situation and that is exactly when the power struggle on social media, much like in life, began yet again.

It seems as if every single topic this day and age in Black America isn’t ever about understandings and trying to grow together with each other. In this one, you saw men posting about women and generalizing them while women were taking their shots to generalize all men and down them for their opinions. What both sides failed to realize is that men and women both had opinions on both sides of the fence here and that all men were not on both sides of the fence either.

The Ayesha Curry comments were just a bystander in the fight for supremacy in Black America. Many times, women may not even believe in something another woman says and still support it just because of it being a woman. And a man may support a man just because it is a man. Either way, does not mean either situation is right or wrong. The fact remains that we socially cannot come together, share opinions and come to conclusion son anything or even make attempts, for the most part, to understand each other much these days because it seems like we are much too concerned with who has the upper hand in the argument.

All the while we are fighting for who is better, we are ultimately losing the battle we could all win together. We all have differences of opinion and that will never change. We are all human and have our own minds. What we have continued to do is allow those differences of opinions to divide us even more as a community and stunt our growth even more. Imagine if we could get over the differences we have as a Black community and become one. The power we would have in this world would be amazing. Imagine another Black Wall Street or imagine us being able to funnel money through our own communities.

Instead, we continue to take issues like this one with Curry and continue the power struggle. We need each other and that will never change. The problem is we never can understand that eventually we are all we got. We are never going to agree on everything in this world. Men are just built different than woman and vice versa. What we can do is work together, listen and understand each other better. Until men and women in Black America understand that, we will never be able to get ahead in this world and show how powerful we truly can be.