In this day and age, if people do not want to talk to someone they “go ghost”. Ghosting means to disappear in a ghost like fashion from someone’s life. That means not responding to them, deleting them from social media and avoiding them at all costs. Sadly, this is the world we live in. If someone doesn’t want someone in their life anymore, why can’t they just… I don’t know… tell them! No it doesn’t work like that. In 2016 people feel like they don’t owe anyone anything… I mean they only been friends for a month or “talked” for three months, right? So why explain to them that you are cutting them off. They will get the hint eventually… *Mindset of many*
I am infamous for ghosting people. If someone says something dumb, annoys me or disrespects me, I just won’t respond. Also, when someone starts getting too attached to me or I can tell they like me, I will gradually pull away to ghost them. I used to be honest with people, but so many people have ghosted me in the past that I just started thinking maybe I’ll ghost people too. Why be honest? Now after years and years of people not getting closure, I realize I need to stop.
People ghost people, because it is easier. Instead of dealing with someone’s reaction to being cut off, why not just take the easy way out? I personally am not confrontational. I speak my mind when I need to, but when it comes to telling someone I don’t want to be cool or date them anymore, I start to get tense and start to sweat L.O.L. I don’t like people upset at me and you never know how someone is going to react. I have even called people with plans to tell them I am no longer interested, but I chicken out and decide that after that conversation, I just won’t respond anymore (I know super shady!). I am a punk in that sense, because I know how it feels. No one wants to hear that they are being cut off. Each time someone has told me they wanted to stop talking to me I was so hurt and I don’t want to be the reason someone else feels that way. But logically speaking they will be less hurt if you tell them straight up, than if you disappear leaving them confused, distraught and angry in some cases.
People, including myself, need to stop being so selfish. Going ghost is easy for the person doing it, but honestly keeping it 100 is so much better for both parties. I have a terrible conscious, so every time I ghost someone I feel like crap about it for the first couple weeks…then I’m fine hahaha. But either way, I am not a totally heartless person, so of course I am going to feel bad sending someone to voicemail, blocking them on snap chat and sending their messages to spam. At the end of the day more communication and transparency is needed so people won’t feel the need to ghost.
This video I saw on Facebook made me laugh. The girl was doing impersonations on women in their 20’s in 2016. A lot of the scenarios and phrases she said applied to me no lie, but one in particular caught my eye. The scenario was “I just want to post subliminal Instagram quotes when I’m mad and put the caption I’m going to just leave this right here instead of confronting the person, because I’m in my 20s and I don’t know how to confront people properly”. This was so legit!! It is unfortunate that people in their 20s (not just women) really do fit this description. Even though I do ghost people, I am making it one of my New Year’s resolutions to stop. At the end of the day we are young adults and should be able to maturely let people know how we feel, whether it’s good or bad.
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