“If your version of me respecting you involves me disrespecting myself, you can go.” Have you ever experienced a person that makes you feel guilty for saying no? Or just an indifference to how they make you feel? They make you feel terrible for setting a boundary. They make you feel like you’re being difficult … More Setting Boundaries: No Guilt Tripping
Earlier this year I was determined to find the perfect guy. I discovered an app called BLK, which was marketed as Tinder for black people. I downloaded the app and set my standards- must have a job, must be in early 30’s, must be taller than me, must have no kids. I was excited to … More The Inspiration Behind James
If you think that I’m about to start this off like the intro to Brown Sugar you might as well leave now because it’s about to get real. Hip-hop is and has always been something that has been used as a tool or outlet to express ourselves. Since the day the first MC spoke into … More The Current State of Hip Hop: Are We Doomed?
How important is it to have standards? When I talk about standards I am referring to dating. I am referring to everything not related to someone’s physical appearance. The problem that this generation faces is that people want to be in a relationship so desperately that they will put all their preferences and standards to the … More No More Settling for Less