The definition of fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. So tell me what your fears are; what causes you to freeze and the hairs on your body to stand? I’m terrified of spiders and if you aren’t then check yourself into John George (Bay Area Psych Facility) because you are beyond crazy if you don’t agree. What about the things that you are afraid of that you aren’t even aware of unintentionally? Are you afraid of love? Before you answer that, I want you to take a long time to sit and think on this before you answer that question. If you said yes, you are afraid of love then shoutout to you for being honest and knowing who you are and your weaknesses. If you say that you aren’t afraid of love then why are you not currently in love with someone? Many people are afraid of the rejection aspect that comes into relationships period, because they are simply afraid of having someone see them for who they truly are. I believe it was Will Smith that once said, “Danger is real, but being afraid is simply a choice.” Being ruled by fear can be a huge weakness that will cripple you and possibly hurt those around you.
Fear of rejection, the first actual fear that I believe all people need to master in order to build a stronger and better relationship in everything. You are most likely afraid due to the fact that you have some deep insecurities in who you are and are terrified that one day someone may actually take a good look and discover that. I remember I had a big issue with rejection but once I got over the fact that I don’t really care what anyone says about me, it just seemed to simply disappear. People are going to feel some type of way about you regardless so there’s no point in you getting upset over the fact that you are unable to control if they have a positive or negative aspect.
Moving forward in your life should not be affected by someone deciding if you look cute or not. People have given random individuals that they don’t even know power to influence their personal lives and I find it quite hilarious. If you feel a way about someone then just show the world how you feel, if that’s what you want to do. Personally, I only have social media to keep up with friends and for business. I rarely ever post my social life at all. But this took years for me to get to where I am now. I remember being dissed at malls all day when I was a young thundercat. Rejection should never truly stop you from anything in life. You should take it as a lesson and find out how you ended up in that predicament.
Another common mistake I’m noticing is many of you suffer from FOMO- fear of missing out. Some of you appear to have become so lost and confused that you need someone around you 24/7 to the point that if they are not around, you feel like you’re being left out of something. Not a business deal, not some type of important meeting that you may have access to, but the simple that you feel as though you are going to miss out on something important due to the simple fact that you aren’t around someone is ridiculous in my opinion. This person isn’t even your significant other 9 times out of 10 it’s one of your friends who honestly isn’t doing shit with their life and somehow you feel as though you are missing out on something this worthless individual is doing? Oh no, you missed a night out with your friends at The Dirty Bird, your life must really be catastrophic. There seems to be some minor disconnect with the younger generation and somehow you have this crazy idea that in a sense you are Peter Pan. You are never going to grow up, never going to have a family, never going to have true responsibilities. If that’s the case, what were you even born for?What is your purpose in life? What value do you bring to this existence? Ok fine, I won’t be so harsh. Let’s take a step back and say that you have this FOMO issue with your significant other. Well us adults like to call that love, but of course someone who has FOMO issues with their friends, will most likely be confessing that to their significant other. So now you have secretly turned into the little white dude from the show You and murking all different types of your significant others friends until you end up wearing their skin as your newest clothes. You simply end up back in the same spot that you were in or hopefully worse if you are out here doing that type of stuff. A fear of missing out is something I have once thought about when I found out that bitcoin was going for $30,000 dollars for one share, but for another person. Unless this person contains the godlike chromosome that only travels in my family tree, I’m not about to worry about spilled milk.
Time is a gift that can never be given twice. It is very precious and this is something that you should not pass around lightly. Allowing fear to enter in your life is simply a continuous stream of negative energy. FOMO is simply a distraction and to feel that way over someone who possibly isn’t even going to be around you for the rest of your life is ridiculous. Running from love is just as bad. How someone can decide to be afraid of discovering something so beautiful is childish. Running like a scared child while you get to know where you want to be in life.
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