No one owes you anything. Not their time. Not their loyalty. Not their energy. Not even access to them as a person. We take for granted the privileges that others allow of us. We are in no way entitled to anything that doesn’t belong to us. That’s why we should never dwell on what actions … More Expected, but not Obligated: Access is a Privilege
“If your version of me respecting you involves me disrespecting myself, you can go.” Have you ever experienced a person that makes you feel guilty for saying no? Or just an indifference to how they make you feel? They make you feel terrible for setting a boundary. They make you feel like you’re being difficult … More Setting Boundaries: No Guilt Tripping
A year ago on February 9th, 2019, I took a road trip to Santa Barbara to see an art show put together by Emily Mata, an art student at Westmont college. A photo I had shared with her was painted portraying the bond I share with an American citizen, despite our different heritage and race. … More Humanizing Immigrants and Refugees – A Conversation With Emily Mata
Your twenties are the time for making mistakes and learning from them. Your twenties are for growing pains and figuring yourself out. It’s also the time period were being selfish should be encouraged. You aren’t required to give yourself away to the point of non-existence. You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to … More Being Selfish: The Years Of Those 20 Somethings…
Avoiding Burnout: A Self-Care Guide We’re always under pressure to achieve a new goal or cross something off our to do list. We’re always breaking records and generational curses. Even if that means not prioritizing our mental health. Our bodies serve as our personal temples. Yet, sometimes we forget that we need a tune-up. Just … More Avoiding Burnout: A Self-Care Guide
Love is a beautiful thing when it’s in balance with other parts of our lives. It is meant to add to what is already present. It can inspire some of the beautiful parts of our being. It opens our eyes to possibilities that were unseen. Love only becomes unbalanced when we forget—as in forgetting who … More Maintaining Self: Single or Taken
If you’re anything like me your friends and family are your top priority. Almost to the point that they come before you in almost every aspect. You are there any time they call. You lend them money any time they need, help them move, or just listen to them “vent”. But then at the end … More “I’ m Not Obligated” : Why Taking on Other Peoples Problems is Not Your Job
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