Help Wanted: Single Black Female Seeks Love while Being Emotionally Available It was a typical Monday on my commute to work when it hit me—I’m emotionally unavailable. I’ve said it before, but the actual realization hit me like bricks. I’m not sure what triggered this realization, but it took everything to hold back my tears. … More I’m Emotionally Unavailable, but I like you…
If there is a myth that the African American community deals with the most, it is this: “Black people don’t need to go to therapy! We’re strong all by ourselves!” Or my personal favorite: “We got the Lord on our side! We don’t need therapy!” News flash everyone, black people go to therapy as well! … More News Flash: Black People Go To Therapy Too!
Change comes only if you want it. The saying that has been resonating with me for three to four months now is ”the best apology is changed behavior”. The friendships with the bad behavior patterns causing pain but not astronomically sat in comfort while l suffered silently. The friendships with catastrophic damage were determined the … More Change Is Only For The Willing
Black boys and men are told how to act before they can establish what is best for them. We teach our young black boys early in life that a man doesn’t show emotion often, if at all. The comfort and softness for little black boys doesn’t exist long. They aren’t allowed to cry or be … More Black Boys Cry Too
The sound of the screaming 30 feet away, will always be a vivid vocal memory. Chills that stopped me in my tracks as soon as I approached the trauma. My heart sank and my body froze. I could not move. I was stuck from any sudden movement. All the hair on my body was standing … More Unit 8 At 2:58pm
My love life has been non-existent for quite some time even prior to social distancing. Almost to the point where I forgot what I was looking for in a significant other. Lately, I’ve been finding myself attracted to those who possess rare traits like emotional maturity rather than seeking physical perfection or trying to make … More Emotional Maturity
Overthinking—sometimes I think it’s going to be the death of me. I have my days where I get into a state where I’m thinking way too much, unable to turn off my brain no matter how much I try. I think of ways to relax but my mind still tends to move at 1000 mph, … More Overthinking & It’s Relation To Mental Health.
Black women are expected to be a few things, except soft or fragile. We are given expectations for our life long before we even discover who we are. For years, black women have been labeled as “hard to handle”, “difficult to work with”, or even the five letter curse word that references a female dog. … More How HTGAWM taught me the fragility of black women.
It was a Friday night and for the first time out of my four years in high school, I was actually getting to experience a night out like the ones you see in all the movies about high school kids. I was always the quiet one in school who barely went out so I thought … More How A Sexual Assault Changed Me Sexually
I’m excited to continue my series on childhood trauma. I will dive into the topic of how the Willie Lynch Letter has affected black children, and how homosexuality has affected black children. The Willie Lynch Letter was a letter from Willie Lynch who was a British slave owner; and who delivered his letter in … More Childhood Trauma “Part II”