Life

I’m Not Bitter, I’m Mad As Hell

It was January 27th. This was the official day I was supposed to move out of California. I was so sad that my trip had to be pushed back a week, because I was ready to start my new life. I fought the urge to see it as a sign, because I was attempting to… Continue reading I’m Not Bitter, I’m Mad As Hell

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Why I Won’t Feel Guilty for Being Happy

For the first time in years, I’ve found myself genuinely happy. Usually my happiness would be connected to a person, place, or tangible thing. It was based on how good life was around me. It wasn’t based around me being the primary source for my happiness. That has been my biggest lesson on my spiritual… Continue reading Why I Won’t Feel Guilty for Being Happy

My Life Be Like, poetry

The Lost Man

If I could give you something priceless for Christmas it would be to hold yourself  the way you want a woman to hold you.  And be good to yourself that way.  To tell yourself  all the things you want to hear from a woman.  For those voices be your new voice.  Your mom’s All the… Continue reading The Lost Man

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Fake Love is Flattery

At some point in our lives, we’ve been exposed to people that aren’t who they appear to be. Sometimes they’re our friends, coworkers, or even our family. They show up to our events, like our posts, and even give their “genuine” advice. They appear to love us so genuinely. However, all love isn’t what we… Continue reading Fake Love is Flattery

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My Cinderella Story

Do you remember as a child, playing pretend? Do you remember who you pretended to be, and why? I remembered the other day when I was deep cleaning our apartment, the days I pretended to be a Disney princess. After leaving school, I would go with my mom back to the house she was cleaning… Continue reading My Cinderella Story

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Eggs, Chicken Wings, Drum Sticks, 2% Milk, Creamer, Mayo, Cheese, Bread, Garlic, Hash-browns

I find it most hard to explain to some why it’s difficult to, “just pick one”. For most of us we picture what that meal will look like, what does it smell like, who we're going to eat it with, and what day we plan on eating it. I’m gonna grab the shrimp because I’m… Continue reading Eggs, Chicken Wings, Drum Sticks, 2% Milk, Creamer, Mayo, Cheese, Bread, Garlic, Hash-browns

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Black Boys Cry Too

Black boys and men are told how to act before they can establish what is best for them. We teach our young black boys early in life that a man doesn’t show emotion often, if at all. The comfort and softness for little black boys doesn’t exist long. They aren’t allowed to cry or be… Continue reading Black Boys Cry Too

My Life Be Like, sexperts

Foreplay IS Sex

Why do we only call something sex once there has been an insertion of a penis into a vagina? We know and understand how this removes non-heterosexuality from a discussion; however, I never thought how limiting "sex" to penetration was damaging to heterosexual women or why.  As always, these are my personal opinions and have… Continue reading Foreplay IS Sex

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My Childhood in Rio

When I first arrived in the United States in the summer of 1998, my mother and I lived in my uncle's house in Berkeley, California. He had sponsored our tourist visa. After picking us up from LAX, he took us to Disneyland and Universal Studios, before we made the six hour drive to his home.… Continue reading My Childhood in Rio